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⚠️Trigger Warning: eating disorders, exercise, bullying, verbal abuse
An eating disorder is difficult to cope with, and it becomes increasingly challenging when your partner doesn’t understand (or show a desire to understand) the what and why of your eating disorder recovery journey.
I was in a serious relationship when I realized my partner didn’t understand my eating disorder.
For almost two years, I was with someone who I thought would always be there for me. I quickly discovered otherwise when he displayed pure annoyance as I began to engage in eating disordered behaviours.
It wasn’t until my boyfriend angrily told me to “Wake the f*** up” that I thought it may be time to leave him.
But because I relied on him so much, I stuck around. I couldn’t imagine my life without him, even if he grossly misunderstood my eating disorder struggle.
The more I went to the gym, the more agitated he became. He would call me to say that I was spending too much time at the gym and not enough with him. That was true, but the issue was also his unwillingness to help.
I’m not blaming my partner for making my eating disorder worse, but he also wasn’t understanding or supportive.
When we went to the gym together and I didn’t stay as long as he thought I should, he would tease me by saying, “Oh, you’re leaving? You’ve hardly been here!”
You can imagine how that played with my head. If he really wanted to stop me from going to the gym, he could have forced me to leave. True, I wouldn’t have left without a fight, but I would have appreciated that he cared.
His attitude toward me and my eating disorder did not improve.
The longer I stayed with him, the more he teased me about my eating and exercise habits. Finally, we decided to end our relationship.
If my story sounds familiar, please seek guidance.
It may be worth it to leave the relationship before the situation gets worse.
I realize that every relationship is different, but I also know how detrimental it is to be with someone that sees your disorder as a joke.
If your partner or family member doesn’t seem to understand your eating disorder, there is help.
Thankfully, there are ways to educate your loved ones and a variety of resources to help guide them in being supportive, even if they have no prior experience with eating disorders.
Help comes in many forms, including psychologists and counsellors, articles like the ones we post here at Libero Magazine, and eating disorder recovery communities and forums.
It’s also important to be sensitive to your loved ones’ emotional state. Watching a loved one struggle with an eating disorder is both mentally and emotionally exhausting.
Don’t settle for miscommunications and misunderstandings, and don’t compromise your own mental health and recovery.
Stay strong and remember you’re not alone.
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Katy has an honours degree in meteorology and an undergraduate degree in geophysics and mathematics. Katy chose to recover from her eating disorder in May 2010 and has never looked back. Throughout her recovery journey, she has struggled with crippling anxiety, which she has now learned to manage and by writing at Libero, she hopes to help others to manage their anxiety, have fun with recovery and learn to live again.
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