Yesterday, actress/director Aisha Tyler did an AMA on Reddit. One Redditor asked about feelings of failure. We love what she had to say in response…
Hi big fan of your work! what advice can you give to a fella who’s in his mid-twenties and feels like a complete fuck up in life?
Here’s her response:
This is going to sound simplistic but I really believe this. I’m serious.
EVERYBODY FEELS LIKE A COMPLETE FUCK UP AT SOME POINT.
We all feel like frauds most of the time.
Someone who goes around thinking they’re awesome all the time is an asshole and their last name is probably Drumpf.
Just get up tomorrow and take a mulligan. The past is the past. You’re a new you today, with new goals and a new approach and you are going to start kicking ass starting now. Blow it? Start over. And keep starting over, every day, until you feel like you’re making some headway. I wrote an entire book, Self-Inflicted Wounds, about all the ways in which I have fucked up. Seriously. A book. And it wasn’t even a comprehensive accounting.
I’m kickstarting my first feature right now. 10-plus years ago, I directed my first short. It was TERRIBLE. It will never see the light of day. Did I give up? No. I just kept making stuff and making stuff until I got better. The next six shorts were better. And now I’m about to make a movie.
Quentin Tarantino will admit that his first efforts were complete crap. Now he’s one of the greatest directors of all time.
Success is not the absence of failure. Success is persistence through failure.
Get out there.
Right after you have some cheetos or whatever. Cheetos are delicious.
Read the full AMA here.
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