Mental Health

Happy Valentine’s Day…To Me!

Happy Valentine's Day...To Me! | Libero Magazine

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It’s that time of year again. Stores are filled with heart-shaped chocolates and I constantly run into couples holding hands and giving each other sweet kisses. It’s the time of year the greeting card companies make a fortune and we celebrate that special someone in our lives; but, what about all of us who are left spending this day alone? Why don’t we get any chocolate? I want some chocolate too!

As pathetic as it might sound, I have gradually become a professional single person on Valentine’s Day. It’s actually a win-win situation – I can pick the movie and avoid ending up at some lame action-packed thriller. If I feel like seeing a chick flick and crying my eyes out, then that’s what I’m going to do! If I need a pick-me-up, I can always send myself a single rose and an over-the-top greeting card.

As the saying goes, “You can never truly love another person until you love yourself,” right?

Can you think of the last time you looked in the mirror and liked the reflection staring back at you? Do you find it easier to pick out the negatives in your day emphasize your mistakes? Is there a nagging voice in your head that never seems to leave you alone no matter how hard you try to do things right? This type of thinking can be detrimental to our health.

A poor relationship with one’s self often surfaces as an underlying cause of the many struggles life throws at us.

I saw my own negativity surfacing as I began recovering from my eating disorder and alcoholism. I found it nearly unbearable to begin to feel all of the self hatred I had been avoiding. Without my unhealthy coping mechanisms I so frequently used to numb my feelings, I was forced confront my destructive thoughts. At first, finding who I was without my disease seemed unattainable.

The relationship I had built with myself over the years was crippling. Why is it so difficult to become friends with yourself? Out of all the blessings recovery has giving me, the opportunity to build this relationship and love myself is at the top of the list.

Spending time loving yourself this Valentine’s Day might sound childish, but before you can start a healthy relationship with another individual, it is necessary to do exactly that. The foundation on which you build any relationship starts from within.

With time, effort, and baby steps of progress, beginning the process of building a better relationship with yourself is not out of reach. Start small- make a list of five things you like about yourself and keep it with you at all times.

In order to begin your journey to self love, it’s important to find out who you are – deep down inside. Find the things you are passionate about, the things that make you feel overjoyed with emotion, and learn to listen to your innermost voice. Allow yourself to feel empathy and be gentle. Treat yourself the way you would treat your best friend. Eventually, it will become habit and you will have no problem being kind to yourself more often.

Life can be overwhelming, confusing, and unfair; however, if you can find inner peace and learn to love yourself, the chaos world might seem easier to handle.

My challenge for you this Valentine’s Day is to stop and think about what is holding you back from building a positive relationship with yourself. Of course, like everything else in life, this is a choice only you can make. Love or hate? It’s up to you.

Because I know that you’re wondering, this Valentine’s Day you will find me alone with my box of chocolates at the movies – and I can’t wait to celebrate this blossoming relationship with me, myself, and I!

After Kelsi recovered from an eating disorder, she realized addiction is her core issue. Recovering from one disorder does not necessarily mean you are healed from another. Full recovery no matter what it might be takes time. As an addiction writer, Kelsi hopes to bring awareness to this taboo issue as it is often embarrassing for her and society to talk about. Join Kelsi on her recovery journey as she de-stigmatizes the shame involved in addiction.

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