Mental Health

On Brotherly Love (and its importance)

Bad, Good; It's Hard to Tell--A Zen Story About Mindfulness | Libero Magazine 1

Support our Nonprofit Magazine!

Before you start reading... There has never been a time when our community and content was needed more. Unlike other sites, we don't publish sponsored content or share affiliate links. We also don’t run ads on our site and don’t have any paywalls in front of our content–-anyone can access all of it for free.

This means we rely on donations from our community (people like YOU!) to keep our site running. We want to be here to support you all through this pandemic and beyond, which is why we are asking you to consider donating whatever you are able.

A single (or monthly) donation of just $5 will make a HUGE difference and will help keep our nonprofit running so we can continue offering peer support for mental health through our content.



To all of you brothers out there…

Although this entry is short, what it lacks in word count it definitely makes up in importance to me. It is about my brother.

I have a brother who is three years older than me and we have been very close since before I can remember. We have seen each other through numerous losses, break ups, and dark days. We have also celebrated together over new jobs, new loves, and new opportunities.

Growing up with such a supportive brother has helped me learn just how important an older brother can be to a girl. Through my journey of recovery my brother has been there every step of the way holding my hand, and even though we live on separate sides of the country now, I know he is always just a phone call away (and I am the same for him).

I remember earlier this year when I first told him that I was struggling with Bulimia. I sat down across from him at Boston Pizza and told him there was something I had to tell him. He waited patiently for the words to come out. “I have Bulimia,” I said. He did not freak out, he did not yell, panic, or cry; instead, he looked me straight in the eyes and replied calmly, “Lauren, just remember one thing – this does NOT define you. This is not who you are. It is something that you struggle with.”

He knew exactly what to say and how to say it. He knows me.

He never stops telling me how proud he is of my progress; when I begin to doubt myself he reminds me of my strength. He doesn’t let me say I can’t do it. He doesn’t let me believe the lies. He is a voice of truth amidst the chaos and confusion. He reminds me I am never alone.

I understand that not all family dynamics are the same as mine, nor are all sibling relationships healthy, but if the potential is there and if the family dynamic is healthy – then invest in each other! Love each other, support each other, build each other up. There are too many sibling relationships that I witness in which they take every opportunity to tear each other down and often it is over petty things and childish arguments that are sometimes used to mask the depth of their true feelings for each other. This breaks my heart…life is too short.

Life is far too short…

So brothers, tell your sister you love her.

Tell her she is beautiful. Tell her you are proud of all that she has done – these are words she needs to hear. Don’t leave it up to other guys to give her the message; instead set an example, show her how she should be treated by guys, then she will accept nothing less.

She needs you. She loves you. And she wants to hear these words.

Don’t leave them unsaid. Don’t assume she already knows.

Tell her today.

I think it goes without saying who this blog is dedicated to…I love you, big brother, and thank-you for never leaving it to other guys to tell me the words every girl needs to hear.

Share this post:

Lauren is the Founder and Editor of Libero. She started Libero in April 2010, when she shared her story about her struggles with an eating disorder and depression. Now Lauren uses her writing and videos to advocate mental health and body positivity. In her spare time, she enjoys makeup artistry, playing Nintendo, and taking selfies with her furbaby, Zoey.

SITE DISCLAIMER: The opinions and information shared in this article or any other Content on our site may not represent that of Libero Network Society. We hold no liability for any harm that may incur from reading content on our site. Please always consult your own medical professionals before making any changes to your medication, activities, or recovery process. Libero does not provide emergency support. If you are in crisis, please call 1-800-784-2433 or another helpline or 911.


Click here to post a comment