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At what point do you snap? Whether it be anger, emotion or depression… In my life I am starting to find my breaking points. They are an interesting thing, these points where you finally say “I have had enough!” We are all going to face it once in awhile.
I have had to face this a fair amount lately – trying to balance my commitments and other stresses. As you’re reading this blog think about your own life – when have you hit your breaking point? or are you at your breaking point right now?
The first breaking point I have started to realize is my anger. There is one thing that I will snap at no matter what is going on and that is when I do not believe that someone can defend themselves. I am an extremely defensive person and it comes out in almost every aspect of my life. I have started to notice this in soccer and lacrosse, if you ever want to see me snap, go after my goaltender and I will show you what happens 🙂
Also, whenever I think someone has been hurt by someone I will be angry and want to do something towards them. That is the role of most friends though, right? I used to have to deal with some pretty big anger issues, but the older I get the more I can withstand, and my breaking point is pushed back.
The other area where I hit a breaking point is with my emotions. You know when you feel like you cannot take anymore? This can be a variety of things whether it just be the amount of secrets you’re keeping, the amount your friends are telling you about their problems, or just feeling like you have to be there for everyone. This can push your emotional level over the top.
Well when do you break? When do you tell a friend you can no longer be friends? When do you have to accept you cannot be there for everyone? When do you have to tell someone no? These are things I am trying to work through and understand.
In my case when I first came to TWU I was able to be everyones ‘friend’, was able to be there for everyone, was able to listen to everyone! But that is not that case anymore; I am starting to realize that I cannot always be there for people. I hit my breaking point a few weeks ago when I realized that my grades were slipping, my health was slipping and my overall stress level was getting higher because of it.
It is important to learn where your breaking point is so you can know when to pull back.
Lastly, I hit a breaking point with my stress level. When do you actually say enough! and stop some commitments? This is something I struggle with a lot… When do you finally have enough and say that’s it I cannot do it?
Last week was probably one of my most stressful weeks between finals from last semester, assignments, and midterms adding in elections made it stressful. Yet I never even hit my breaking point – I came close, but then after elections were over I let it ALL go. A few years back I would have snapped but this time I said “I can do this!” and I didn’t let myself become overwhelmed.
Through learning to accept what is going on, my ‘breaking point’ has been pushed back and I can handle a lot more than I used to. But that doesn’t mean that I will not hit it again.
I chose to write on Breaking Points because in some areas of my life recently I can tell I am reaching mine. I am starting to evaluate what is important, whether this stress or emotional tax is worth the help I am doing. That is my struggle right now – trying to balance things without burning out, because when you get to that point where you break, you become useless and something has to change.
My challenge to you is this: try and learn where your breaking points are and stay away from them. If you hit a breaking point something bad and good will happen. Good will be a change in you’re life that will eventually help you. Bad is someone is going to get hurt along the way whether it be a friend, someone you have a commitment with, or just someone close by.
So anyone who is reading this whether your going through reading break, making decisions or just having a tough time be careful of your breaking points. And learn to know when ‘enough is enough’ – and stop just short of that.
Christian struggled through and recovered from depression. He likes to write so others can hear his story and know there is hope. His goal is that through sharing, people will be able to see their story within his own.
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